|my frat guy <3
||[Jul. 8th, 2004|12:54 pm]
For those of us non-greek girls dating frat boys
I joined a couple of months ago, but this is my first post.
I'm Heather and my guy is a memeber of Phi Mu Alpha Sinfonia, and we've been together for about a year (September 16). He is the love of my life and I can't imagine it without him anymore.
While I love him very very much, I much dislike how some of his brothers voice their dislike for me. Some of them are good friends of mine now, but the others are a strong direct opposite. It's never a problem until we go to a frat party together. Then I feel very uncomfortable and find myself asking him if we can leave early; it makes me feel horrible. He says it's fine, but I'm determined to make it better.
School is about to start up again, and I was wondering if any of you girls had some advice on how to deal with these judgemental brothers? Please help!
Much <3 and kisses
My boyfriend is a Sinfonian too. When we first started dating I wasn't in a sorority... though now I am, so I never joined this community. We've been together since November 10th.
He has judgemental brothers? I have no problems with the guys here... (in fact I'm living at their house this summer, lol) but hm... maybe the best way would be to be upfront and talk to them directly about it if it's a really big issue.
Wow, how did I miss all these posts? I'm the moderator and apparently my friend's page is screwy. Anyway-
I HATE my bf's house for the most part. I had a set group of guys in another hosue that I met during Orientation frosh year. And I just have a comfort level at their house that I don't have at my bf's. Part of it is my fault I'm sure, because I have no desire to be buddy buddy with them. But they are also just not the guys I would freely associate with if I wasn't dating a brother. And the feeling is mutual (god forbid I am a wet rag who lets them tell my bf and myself when, where, and how we will see each other). Plus, I am not a sorority girl, which is not appreciated. But one fo the ways I got friendlier with some of them was by befriending their gf's. One of my best friends is a house gf and I don't know what I did without her. :)
All in all, I wouldn't let them bug you. Hopefully, you will be around forever and his brothers are guys he will see once a year at homecoming after graduation. :)
I'm also dating a Sinfonian - been together for like, a year and a half. I don't know much about judgmental brothers, because I've known them all before I even started dating one, but I can tell you what the brothers tell me about some of the other girlfriends of the brothers, and I agree with what someone else said - it's because they don't really know you. Either that, or the way you're presented by someone is not really the clear picture of you.
That wasn't very clearly written, but I hope you get my point. lol