|A little about myself, and fraternities...
||[Feb. 21st, 2004|11:58 am]
For those of us non-greek girls dating frat boys
My girlfriend and I have been together for two months (today!) but we've known each other and been friends for 6 months or so.|
She's a Kappa sister, and she absolutely loves her sorority and the opportuities that go with it.
Me, I don't even go to a university that *has* fraternities, and I'm about as far away from a frat guy as you can get, in any case...
I love my girl dearly, and we're good friends and good partners in spite of, or maybe even because of, our differences.
The sorority thing has caused a little tension, though I've done my best to understand what it's all about and accept it. I know that if I love her I have to respect the choices she makes and the things that are important to her.
A few things bother me about glo's, though, and I wonder if you might be able to give me some insight, since I'm pretty new at this.
1 -- The secrecy. The fact that I can't really know what goes on at those meetings, or even what the sorority is all about. Maybe it's just my innate curiosity, but it makes me slightly uneasy at times. There's a part of my sweetie's life that I can never be a part of, and that stings a bit, I guess.
2 -- The group mentality. You know, some people might see this as a positive, but sometimes reading greeks' gushing about their organisations gives me the creeps.
3 -- The mystical element. I've had friends mixed up in organisations like the Golden Dawn, and learned a little more than I'm supposed to about secret societies and classical mysticism and ritual. I know frats/sororities aren't centered around it, but I wouldn't mind knowing how deeply it runs.
4 -- How right-wing are glo's, generally?
5 -- Gender segregation. Though I've heard of some "real" co-ed fraternities.
Don't get me wrong, I've started to see the positive aspects of greek life, but I do have these things that gnaw at me from time to time.
I look forward to discussion.